A precursor: Some of you reading this may find it offensive, and that is OK. Strong events evoke strong reactions, and this is mine. I will not respond to, or validate any negativity from anyone.
Let me just put it out there-I can’t take anymore posts, news, information, stagnant lamenting about the horrible events of this past week.
What happened is beyond comprehension, because it was a senseless act. There is no rationalizing any of it. Innocent people died-many of them small children. Like everyone else, it hurts my heart. No one should have to endure such violence, and its resulting echo. I can’t even fathom what those involved feel, in the depths of their hearts.
I am bothered by the credence that tragedy is given, not just with this, but with the countless horrid things that happen daily in the world. With every post about the gunman’s troubled past, we place a spotlight on his actions, thus making him the most prominent individual in this situation, not the victims. Does endless information regarding his “social awkwardness” or possible Asperger’s Syndrome help us to make sense of the senseless? No. Does post after post on social media asking others to wear Sandy Hook school colors, or regarding your own new-found fears of sending your child to school help anyone? Not likely. As much as your heart hurts for those involved, remember that you weren’t. Be thankful for that. We are no more or less safe than we were the day before this happened. Be mindful of the fact that children learning of this event will likely find themselves worrying about formerly unthinkable things, and will not benefit from any added amplification of those fears.
I do not mean to discredit the sympathy that we all feel for those involved (and I do feel a very deep, abiding sympathy), but I do take issue with the way we choose to channel it. We are saturated with media coverage that places a high value on the quantification of tragedy; that is, referring to events such as these as “the worst school shooting in history” or “the second worst school shooting in history”. Every school shooting is the worst one, for those experiencing it, and really, for our nation as a whole. To buy into this rhetoric is to support the categorization of death’s significance, according to the number killed. And that’s the exact opposite of what the true issue at hand really is.
So, pray and offer up a supportive thought for those suffering, in the silence of your day. And if you want to see change in our communities-stop talking about it, and do something. Instead of perpetuating despair, perpetuate life. Because in the midst of death and loss and unthinkable sadness, there is even greater love and joy and peace to be found. Be a part of that. Choose to move forward.